Although most stores have had their Valentine’s Day decor, candy, and cards up since December, we just barely into the month of February. And as the shelves dwindle as loved ones buy gifts for their significant others, it leaves some of the world happy with the love they are feeling and others longing or sad over the same emotions. This time of year always reminds me of these underlying feelings of wanting to be loved and not lonely and February is an interesting month to dive into the topic.
Ever since we were children, this has been a holiday to show love towards our classmates by filling out cartoon character cards and fastening a candy to the small note. But then as you got older, the holiday became polarizing because there was no longer a day in a class dedicated to decorating a shoebox for your mailbox. Still, instead, it was “whose your valentine?” It no longer was this holiday centered around others but centered around yourself and one other person. And that can be a bit isolating, especially if someone was single, be it for an extended period or after a fresh break-up.
Ever since the holiday has changed for our adult selves, you learn about spin-off holidays like Galentine’s Day or forget about the day altogether. I recently read an article on Zoella’s website that listed 20 Things to Do in February. If you don’t know what Zoella is, or rather who, Zoe Sugg is a British Youtuber who is well known for her beauty videos, style, and lifestyle. She has excellent articles about delicious recipes and mental health, and she’s a blogger that I have looked up to.
I thought all of her suggestions were both comical, like “2. Treat yourself for getting through the longest month of the year. Huzzah!” or inspiring like “14. Do something for Random Acts of Kindness Day” but overall relateable “17. Restart your failed NY resolutions. We go again – new month, new me…” and focused on relationships. This goes along with the message I wanted to get across in this post—there’s more to Valentine’s Day and February than just romance and relationships. And really it should be about caring for ourselves as well.
And although those who are coupled up tend to forget about loving ourselves and focus solely on our partners, I think there is a lot we can do for ourselves to makes sure we too feel the love regardless of our relationship status. I decided to list my own “20 Things” to hopefully inspire you to get out there and find time for yourself.
20 Things To Do for Yourself in February
- Reward yourself for a small victory, be it a promotion or getting out of bed before 10:00 am on the weekend.
- Buy a bouquet of flowers for yourself at the grocery store and put it on your coffee table, so you are always reminded of them.
- Have a night where you put on a face mask and watch a movie that has been on your Netflix Watch List for years now.
- Write yourself a letter and talk about what you are currently excited for and proud of, keep it safe, and date it for you to open shortly.
- Take the time to read for 20 minutes, go on a walk around your neighborhood, or practice something creative that you enjoy.
- Treat yourself to a movie, and get a large popcorn and Slurpee all for yourself.
- Visit a store that you live and peruse the shelves or displays and find a new book, clothing item, or be it anything you like.
- Learn a new recipe, and take the time to enjoy a nice dinner that you made for yourself to enjoy.
- Put the phone down before bed and actually try to get 8 hours of sleep one night.
- Get up and make time for breakfast!
- Pick out an outfit the night before that makes you feel confident and beautiful.
- Learn something new.
- Take time out of your day to meditate or just reflect on the day and what is to come.
- Tidy your space and light a few candles.
- If you have a busy schedule, make sure to set aside an hour dedicated to “me time.”
- Listen to a podcast, find some new music, or pick a new audiobook for the month.
- Make your bed in the morning, so you already start the day by completing a simple task.
- Allow yourself to take a pause and reflect on your feelings.
- Define three daily goals for yourself and set to it that you complete each one/
- Get yourself a treat or grab a bite from your favorite restaurant.